Love your Self (Self-love)
You must love
yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what
you are, your simple presence can make others happy
Jane Roberts
Loving yourself
means acknowledging that you are a divine being of light, that you are a unique
expression of the divine mind, that you are precious and unrepeatable, and that
you are incredible, powerful and deserve to be loved by the whole world and by
yourself.
I LOVE MYSELF
Look in the
mirror. Look at the reflection of this incredible being: a divine expression of
unconditional love. This incredible being is YOU. Look in the mirror and say,
“I am an amazing, unique being. I am loved by the whole world and this love is
unconditional.”
Do you remember
when you were a child? You were happy for no reason. You lived perfectly in the
moment. You found magic in everything. Life was a joy. You didn’t judge
yourself. You thought, know that you are perfect the way you are both
physically and mentally.
When you love
yourself, you accept yourself as you are at any moment – in all your humanity –
with fears, weaknesses, desires, beliefs and aspirations that are all facets of
who you are. You do not judge yourself or your actions as right or wrong, but
accept every moment as an experience from which you will learn, thereby facing
the consequences of your actions and decisions.
It is only by
learning how to take care of your own emotional needs that you discover how to
transmit this love to others. when you respect the integrity of your own thoughts and feelings, you
are able to do the same for others.
Self-love is not
so much a feeling as it is a lack of self-doubt and self-disapproval. It is
about finding the right balance and feeling that you belong as a person. Respect,
taking charge of your own life and feeling good are key values. Self-love means
that your wellbeing matters to you unconditionally. Here are a few of the
characteristics of self-loving people.
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They
tend to treat themselves well.
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They
see fun and enjoyment as a primary goal most of the time.
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They
do not allow themselves to be mistreated by others.
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They
are caring towards others – because it feels good to do so, not because they
have to.
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They
put themselves first. Even those they love are a “close second”.
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They
find a thought that feels good and put it into practice.
Loving yourself is
about treating yourself as you would treat someone who is very precious to you;
someone you love so much that you hurt when they hurt, for whom you would move
mountains just to see them well and happy.
ACTIVELY
LOVING MYSELF
Ask yourself, if
you were your own best friend, what gift would you give yourself right now that
would make you happier and do you good? Of course, each one of us will give a
different answer, but there are certain things that we all need in order to
love ourselves:
Take time out
to yourself – If you
think you don’t have time for this, ask yourself whether you’d make time for
your best friend if they were in need? Well, you are just as worthy. Book a
massage or a facial, or take a stroll in your favorite park, whatever you feel
like doing, so long as it’s regular quality time dedicated to you.
Get
breathless – There is no
getting away from it, exercise is crucial for good health and wellbeing. If you
don’t do any, you are simply storing up problems. It doesn’t have to be a sport
or the gym; but think “breathless”. What can you do that’s fun and makes you
breathless? Dancing? Walking? Cycling? Doing any of these things for 20 minutes
every other day would be a great start.
Rest and
sleep – you may think
sleep is for lazy, boring people and is just a waste of time? Quite the
opposite! When you sleep, your body is busy repairing and healing itself and
undoing any damage you may have caused it. Take sleep seriously.
Nourishment – Each time you eat, think of the food as nourishment
first, mood enhancement second! Choose healthy food that nourishes you.
Light and air – If you live in a town or city, you’ve probably
noticed how much more alive you feel when you can get away from it all and
breathe fresh country, or sea, air. We need sunlight to help us produce vitamin
D, which is important for bones and general wellbeing. So spend some time
outside every day – you’ll sleep better too.
Fun, laughter
and play – When was the
last time you laughed so hard you almost cried? Or fooled around like a big
kid? A good laugh loosens muscles, lowers blood pressure, relieves stress and
strengthens your immune system. It feels good because when you laugh, blood is
pumped around your heart and lungs, boosting your energy levels. So have some
fun and laugh as much as you can!
Confront
sources of stress
– We all have things in our life that drain us of our energy, things we don’t
want to deal with because doing so would mean stepping out of our comfort zone.
It may be nothing more than a messy desk, but it could be something more
emotionally charged, like a fend with a relative. Whatever it is, find a way to
tackle it and energy you’ll release will make your life feel a whole lot
better. Nurture, honor and love yourself – choose only those things that are
good for you!
The relationship
between you and yourself is extremely important as it provides the foundation
upon which all your other relationships are built – helping to determine their
quality, their depth and their character. In short, it is the working model of
how you give and receive love.
The quantity and
quality of your self-love is what fundamentally determines how successful your
relationships with others will be. If what you seek is an honest, relationship
based as love, then you must first learn to love, honor and to value yourself
as the most wonderful and lovable being.
LOVE YOUR
BODY
Sigmund Freud
discovered that the body and psyche are inextricably linked. One of his most
famous students, Carl jung, said, “In the same way that the conscious and
unconscious are in constant interaction, the body and the mind are in constant
interaction.” This statement, more than 5o year old, is affirmed by some of the
world’s greatest minds. Researchers in this field, such as Wilhelm Reich, John
Pierrakos, Fritz Pearls, Louise Hay, have all contributed greatly to our
understanding of metaphysical science.
With each illness
or disorder, your body is reminding you to love yourself. Through genuine
self-love allow your heart to guide you to wellness and wholeness.
WAYS TO LOVE YOUR
BODY
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Think
of your body as the vehicle that transports you to your dreams. Honor it.
Respect it. Fuel it.
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Create
a list of all the things your body lets you do. Be thankful for it.
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Become
aware of what your body can do each day. Remember it is the instrument of your
life, not just an ornament.
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Walk
with your head held high, supported by pride and confidence in yourself as a
person.
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Count
your blessing, not your blemishes.
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Be
your body’s friend and supporter, not its enemy.
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Consider
this: your skin naturally replenishes itself once a month, your stomach lining
every five days, your liver every six weeks, and your skeleton every three
months. Your body is extraordinary – be sure to respect and appreciate it.
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Every
morning when you wake up, thank your body for resting and rejuvenating itself
so you can enjoy the day.
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Every
evening when you go to bed, tell your body how much you appreciate what it has
allowed you to do throughout the day.
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Find
a method of exercise that you enjoy and do it regularly. Don’t exercise to lose
weight or to your body. Do it to make your body healthy and strong and because
it make you feel good. Exercise for the three :Fun, Fitness, and Friendship.
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Put
a sing on each of your mirrors saying, “I’m beautiful inside and out”.
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Choose
to find the beauty in the world and in yourself.
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Eat
when you are hungry. Rest when you are tired. Surround yourself with people who
remind you of your inner strength and beauty.
You will see that
when you love your body, your body loves you back. By taking care of yourself
in as many ways as you can think of, your body will become a strong, healthy
and beautiful vessel that will remain your best friend for life.
This is take From
– Read me I am Magical
Thanking to ALINKA
RUTKOWSKA
Written by: ARSHAD ANSARI